Which comes first? Marriage or Engagment?
February 25, 2008Funny thing happened to me this weekend. Ok maybe it wasn’t that funny coz it pissed me off so much.
I recently got engaged. Did the whole ask the parents thing, coz they are so old fashioned that Fred Flintstone could have been their neighbour, and got my answer! One of them wasn’t too interested in what I was saying but I really didn’t care. I was doing my bit.
Wouldn’t this person decide to sit me down yesterday and start bitching and moaning about the fact that my Fiance is walking around with an engagement ring but I didn’t bother asking if it was ok?!?!
*trying to get look of shock and horror off face and explain slowly* These were my words exactly.
me: But I asked you a week ago and told you the date I had in mind.
Dummie: I didn’t hear that!
Me: *frothing at the mouth* But I said we wanted to get married. When people want to get married they need to get engaged first?
Dummie: No one explained it to me like that. Maybe I misunderstood!
Me: People who want to get married kinda have to get engaged first!
Dummie: Well it didn’t work like that in my time!!!!
For fuck sakes, ok those were not my exact words but I think it would have been appropriate. Can someone out there please tell me how things worked back in Bedrock!?!?
The arrangments have not even started and I already feel like running off and Eloping.
Was I wrong in not going back a second time? I mean I didn’t go and ask them the first time round for my fucking health! Was I asking them if it was ok to have the thought of marriage in my head? Was I then suppose to chat to them again when this thought developed into something more? Do I need to run all my thoughts past these people?!?!
I’m so not used to running my thoughts past anyone, apart from my editor who pays me and can kill me with one look if I fuck up. I see myself as an independent young man (oh shut up 25 is young) who has tons of respect for other people. I don’t get upset easily and there aren’t many things that get me down. I’d prefer it if people who were upset about things didn’t piss on mine or my Partners fucking battery because they have nothing better to do with their time!
Come on already. Get a life and get over yourselves. If Fred was here today he’d slap you with that fucking boulder!!!! yabba dabba doo dipshits!
Oh my friggin soul. you have got to be kidding me! ARe these people for real? Yoh Batman, a person can’t deal with that!
gonna be interesting Toby. very interesting
Oi, the consequences of trying to do things the right way – makes you wanna have babies before marriage and really shock the hell out of those narrow-minded and selfish oldies. No advice, unfortunately. I would personally tell them to go and take a long, hard fall to hell and stay there, which means no invites either, unless you know THAT address. Ok, perhaps a bit harsh, but sometimes selfish people need harsh. Sterkte, oh dearest Batman. Focus on your great women and all shall turn out OK.
thanks KD we live in hope jong
Mmmm. You do realise these people are going to be buying you birthday and Christmas presents and they’re NEVER going to get it right. You’re also going to be spending all future special occasions staring across a Christmas table at them, or, at your wedding, the dancefloor, the baptismal font when your sprogs are dunked and blessed; a machine gun when you finally decide to mow them down (oops, sorry, scrap the last one). So best you start practising your sh*t-eating smile early.
Sheesh Frankie. My shit-eating smile is working so much overtime it could pay for the entire bloody wedding already. I’m trying though. I really am
Your kids are going to share their blood. Now there’s a scary thought.
But Batman, have you been nice to the people? You can’t expect them to just hand over their first girl child without at least a bit of a tantrum.
Maybe you must ma sit with them for a little while, talk about the weather, the price of petrol and what what. Make them drunk if you must.
oh Toby if only it was that easy. I have been nice to them, i kinda find it difficult not to be nice even to bad people, but i was also taught that being nice to people who aren’t nice to you is not cool. Don’t put yourself out there just so people can beat you down. I don’t know how to be any nicer than I’ve been without changing myself as a person. I’m not willing to do that. Coz as you know I think i’m fucking fabulous!
We know you’re fabulous man. Maybe their people should socialise a bit with your people so they can equal one another out. Your mom is cool, hers isn’t so the average should be tolerable. Having parents chat to one another does help, I’ve found.
They have met. on plenty of occasions. Problem is my mom and I have completely different personalities. I’m the-do-what-you-want-to-me-and-i-won’t-get-upset-about-it-and-still-do-my-own-thing-without-causing-a-fuss. My mom is more like a hurricane. She’s rather confrontational esp where her kids are involved and doesn’t have a patient bone in her body. The thought of a meeting sends chills down my spine. I don’t want that to happen just yet. Maybe later in the year!
At the wedding you mean? So not a good time for them to meet.